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Old 05-21-2015, 10:43 PM   #21
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I've been mulling this dilemma over in my head since I first read it and I had many ideas come to mind. However, of all the ideas, the one that stuck the most is:

Possibly, this is not the time for you to work on this. If you can't come up with a strong enough point of view to get him to even consider it, then maybe this "dream" you have should stay just that...a dream.

If, you feel strongly that this should become a reality, then you might want to think hard on one of the many reasons we all have for doing what we're doing (reading the various stories on here will give you the many reasons why this is so without beating a ).

You may want to spend a bit of time finding out why he is not interested and/or what may be the winning ticket on what to say to get him to agree.

If animals are the main point of contention for him, you just might have to decide what is more important to you. We are planning on going full time and because of that we have to find a home for our 5 year old cat who would just be plain miserable and unhappy with the idea (yes, that brings tears to my eyes and makes me very sad).

Animals, like people, adjust and there just may be someone out there that can give them the love they are use too.

I personally feel that those people that are wanting and/or doing this because they feel it be so much cheaper and easier to live, really need to make a nice, long list of all of the expenses that you will need to be responsible for. And also the fact that you can put off doing things to a house that need done until you can get around to it and/or raise the money to do the work and that will not be an option when your stranded on the side of a highway.
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Old 05-22-2015, 03:39 AM   #22
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I keep wanting to "Like" comments on this thread, then I remember I'm not on FaceBook...

Good advice from so many!

I will have to ease into this, apparently, for several reasons. Perhaps me and the iguana will go by ourselves... ;)
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Old 05-22-2015, 05:57 AM   #23
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Same here! She's actually doing MORE research than I am! However, being a formerly ASE certified diesel mechanic she leaves the final decision on which one to get to me although she has set certain parameters with her expectations...... Thomas diesel pusher with 40' of build space and not the inverted roof.......
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Old 05-22-2015, 07:27 AM   #24
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Breeze and Otter, great that you are thinking this thru. It makes me take a second look at things to see what you had to say.
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Old 05-22-2015, 07:39 AM   #25
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Thats a small space for so many animals.
To me it would be too much like a small, crowded pet store. I doubt the animals would prefer bus life.
I have a car that's 17 years old. I'm not going to make him live in a bus. My other two cats would love it but the oldest one it would probably not be good for.
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Old 05-22-2015, 10:13 AM   #26
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If it is your dream, you should pursue it.

Your life is about your life, dream it and dream it big.
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Old 05-22-2015, 08:43 PM   #27
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I have a car that's 17 years old. I'm not going to make him live in a bus.
Thank you for the chuckle EastCoast! Took me a bit to figure out 'he' was a cat.
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Old 05-22-2015, 08:46 PM   #28
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Dang it, funny typo.
My car is 50 this year!
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Old 05-22-2015, 09:26 PM   #29
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Life is about being able to dream and work towards making it come true when life is only about you.

When you marry, you are buying into a life where you share your dreams and/or work creating new together. If your spouse doesn't share that dream you love, you should work on coming up with another dream together.

As I think East Coast said (sorry and correct me if I'm wrong) you might want to look at working towards a mobile vacation home and see what transpires from there.

I, like most others here are pleased that they are able to make their dream come true and I, personally am very happy that my spouse is willing to chuck it all and go full timing as my dream goes.

I started out planning to be full timers and selling off everything we have & just hit the road & go. Since then I still have those same thoughts, but are not as quick to selling our home and now plan to spend many months locally just checking out the water. I think David, Lorna's husband dying has opened my eyes up. If all goes well, off we'll go...if things don't go as we hope then we will have a home to return to whether it's to live in or park at while we work at coming up with another dream.
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Old 05-22-2015, 11:32 PM   #30
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I'm on my third marriage, and learned some important lessons. Love is love. Marriage is a business contract. There's love involved if you're doing it right, but also a LOT of business - sharing money, homes, vehicles, "stuff", responsibilities, and lots more.

It's gotta work for both of you. If it doesn't, it's not gonna work for either of you.

My wife's into Skoolies but not some aspects like composting toilets. I love the project, she just wants to hit the road. We talk it out and make it work.

Talk it out, and make it work. If she's still not into it, either Skoolies aren't right for you or she isn't, but something's gotta give. Personally I'd pick the woman over the vehicle but only if she doesn't look like nat_ster's ex (or mine!) Brrrr!

I gave up a freaking AWESOME Cozy MKIV airplane because it wasn't gonna work for my wife and new family of 5 kids. I'm totally at peace with it - it was 100% the right choice.
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