Originally Posted by dan-fox
...I am also getting significant pushback from SWMBO...
Dear Mr. Fox,
I am writing this from my scars, as it were.
I have embarked on many courses of action in the past, in which my wife was neither not consulted or in which I went against her wishes. In nearly all of those instances, her advice would have saved me tremendous grief.
My policy now is (in the absence of a burning bush to the contrary) to involve her early and with full information, and to lead as a good husband... and stop in my tracks if she has reservations. Certainly I've lost a number of good deals in that process, but overall this has protected our family from a lot of trouble, and the quality of our relationship is better now than it ever has been.
Yes, this looks like abdication and being 'whipped. I prefer to think of it as making full use of the helper God gave me (kinda like He said I needed). Call it what you will: I've tried it both ways and choose this way.
I would hate to see you lose a good deal on a bus, but I would encourage you to be willing to walk away from it, to tell her so, lay out all the positives and negatives, and ask her for her counsel. If she says to bail on the idea, I would encourage you to do so. Sure, you'll pass up on a possibly good deal. But you'll reap benefits.
I won't think the worse of you if you don't follow my advice, of course - you're a big boy and I'm just an old guy trying to save you some grief. And not that you or anyone else would care what I thought, of course! But I'm giving you the best I've got to give here.
Wishing you and SWMBO the best...