OK, *I'll* be polite and welcome the newbie -
Dear AMoss - glad you're here! You'll find a wealth of information on this site, and some very, very knowledgeable and helpful folks here (EastCoastCB and ScooterNJ are good examples). But, yes, we do get a little silly sometimes.
You're making decisions based on family and love for daughter, and willing to think outside the box to bless her. That's a wonderful, wonderful approach to life. Welcome!