Sorry you are having such a tough time!
It really is a joke the way this simple message board is being run. Unfortunately only the admin has the power to really make some changes and so far he is basically MIA in the time that I've been around here.
I too have had problems posting large write ups on other boards and I understand how frustrating it is when a bunch of your time and energy is just vaporized. I've since made a habit of copy and pasting my post to Word or notepad before I send it off.
Like Bansil mentioned... after a small amount of posts you will be set free to post in real time. Imagine that! A message board that allows users to post messages without getting approval.