Ok..about the load questions. There aren't any specific answers as it really depends a lot on the specific item (brand and model sometimes). For example lets use the 4.0 cubic foot refrigerator. If it's an AC model it uses perhpas 1 amp or so; if you run that off an inverter you'll pull about 10 amps of DC. If it runs 1/2 the time that would be 120 amp hours that you'd take from the batteries. If you were treating your 8D batteries really nicely and only taking them down to a 50% depth of discharge it would take one 8D to run the refrigerator one day (assumming a 50% run time; that's probably a little high).
If you chose instead a Norcold DE-0041 (actually 3.6 cu ft), it runs on 1.6 to 2.8 amps on DC (a measly .2 amps on AC); less than a fifth of the AC refrigerator above. In other words, you could run the DE-0041 for almost 5 days on one 8D battery. It's an AC/DC model with a real compressor; it's not a gas absorption model.
The small 4.0 cu ft AC refrigerators seem to sell for around $150 or so (some less, some more). The DE-0041 sells for about $800. Ouch! But it's like having 5 times as many batteries aboard; it all comes down to what will work best in your situation. If you have lots of battery power and will be back where you can charge them every couple of days probably the AC refrig would work fine; if you're going to set up for a week or so and won't recharge the Norcold would be a better choice (if the price doesn't kill the deal).
As much of a PITA as it is you need to do an Energy Budget. It doesn't have to be fancy; just add up everything you're likely to run in a day. Just add up all the amps; if it's an AC unit that's going to run on the inverter take the amps on the plate on the appliance and multiply times 10 for DC amps. If it's rated in watts just divide by the voltage...for instance...a 5-watt light on DC draws .4 amps (5 divided by 12). An 800-watt AC coffee maker would be about 7 amps (800 divided by 115) on the AC side; running on an inverter it would be 70 amps from the batteries.
Use the internet to search for watts or amps on everything you want to run. Then figure out (even guessing for the most part!) how long each thing might be turned on and that becomes your amp-hours. So a 5-watt bulb on for 1.5 hours is 7.5 amp-hours. The 10-amp refrigerator running for a total of 8 hours out of 24 would be 80 amp-hours. Then add up the total amp-hours and that's your Energy Budget for the day.
Now...if you really want to be kind to your batteries multiply your total Energy Budget by 3 to get the total number of amp-hours you should have in batteries and recharge them at their 50% level (12.1 volts). Say you came up with 115 amp-hours per day; you should then go for about 345 amp-hours worth of batteries. And your alternator should be no smaller than 33% of this number (40% to 50% is better); or about 114-amps in this example.
Now, here is where another big trade-off comes...how important are your batteries. If you're not having to spend too much on them and you don't mind replacing them more often you can drag them down deeper (in terms of depth of discharge) and also charge them faster (if you have the amps available). This will kill the batteries much sooner than if you cycle them with shallower DOD (depth of discharge) and charge them properly but that takes money and time and depending on your use and the batteries it might not be worth either. If you buy really good (and expensive) batteries and want them to last as long as possible you'll have to treat them better and pay more attention to their DOD and charge rates. If you're boondocking a lot and/or trying to maintain a viable solar charge system this will be important; if you're weekending probably a lot less so.
Even if you're weekending and want to get the most you can out of your batteries (regardless of cost) get a good multi-stage (typically three...bulk, absorption, and float) charger that has settings for your battery type (usually wet cell, gel cell, and AGM) to plug in when you get home. This will charge them properly, top them off (your bus alternator (without an external regulator) never can) and keep them peaked up ready for the next trip.
I'm not trying to overwhelm you with technical stuff here; it just helps to know a little something about what you're after so you know whether or not you're going the right direction for what you want to accomplish.
If you've got questions...fire away!
