After isolating as much of the electrical as I could, I determined the following:
New to me electric modulator passes bench test. Thanks Christopher.
Modulator relay is good.
Modulator relay socket is good.
Pin 56 at ECM connector tones to the relay socket.
Relay socket to modulator connector tones.
I did not test pin 56 on the ECM itself, as I didn't want to push my luck and mess up the ECM. It seems pretty obvious that the ECM is not sending to the relay. Why? Who knows.
As I finally determined I needed to use the accelerator switch work around and am waiting for that to come, I really wanted to test the modulator.
So, I connected a + and - wire to the battery, added a toggle switch and a 15a blade fuse, got my friend to come over to activate the switch while I drove.
35mph, pedal to metal, toggle switch on, immediate downshift....rpms ran right up to about 2500rpm! Tested once more, same results.
Then, we went to a solid 6% grade, about 1.5 mile climb, 50mph speed limit. Going 50mph, started to loose speed, pedal to metal, toggle switch on, downshift once, pulled a bit but still to steep a grade, downshifted again, pulled the grade at 2350rpm.
Woo hoo!
Thanks to all, especially Christopher, for all the help.