I found it now thanks for the help now on to next hurdle and that is im getting a cable not plugged in errorThe nexiq should come with both 6 and 9 pin connectors. If your bus is the 6 pin there should be a female port under there somewhere. Most international dog noses they're under the dash to the right of the driver (kinda lined up with the center aisle). The flat noses are usually under the dash to the left of the steering wheel.
There may be a plug already in it you need to remove, sometimes the school districts leave their old Zonar or other monitoring things plugged into them. That male plug you're seeing dangling there is probably just that, keep looking up in there and you'll find the bus' female connector.